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Introducing...Something New

You've found yourself thinking about a new sexual interest but you're not sure how to broach the subject with your partner.  Exploring a new kink can be lots of fun for both parties but there are some good Do's and Don'ts about how to approach it.

The Do's

  • Do come to the discussion prepared to answer follow-up questions about why you have this interest and how you envision it being implemented.
  • Do allow yourself to be vulnerable.  The more genuinely you present your idea, the more responsive your partner is likely to be when they see how important this is to you.
  • Do some research on your interest beyond watching pornography.  How are other real couples enjoying it?  Having a good reference site for your partner to check out on their own can be incredibly helpful.
  • Do be patient with your partner.  Depending on how open-minded they are, your new interest could surprise them. If they seem to immediately reject the idea, give them some space and time to process but revisit the idea on a different day with a fresh perspective.

The Don'ts

  • Don't wait until you're already in bed to mention something new you want to try.  The best time to discuss a new interest in when you're both fully clothed and comfortable.
  • Don't feel ashamed for what you're interested in.  If you and your partner are a good match, then they should be open to at least listening to what you have to share.
  • Don't apologize for your interest.  No matter what you are into (as long as it's legal!) there is no need to feel guilt.  Embrace who you are and what you are interested in!
  • Don't anticipate your partner's reaction. There is an equal chance that they will love the idea as there is that they will be uninterested. You won't know until you ask.

With Power and Pleasure,
Ginger Figgs
CEO of Bliss Box